Maybe you feel jaded because your trust has been betrayed and you have built high walls of protection  around your heart.
It seems backward, but the first step to building trust in relationships is to accept that there are no guarantees. If people truly realized the intensity of making vows of commitment to another human being for life, they would wear a crash helmet to the wedding. Stephen Covey, son of Stephen Covey who wrote Seven Habits of a Highly Effective People, is the author of The Speed of Trust; The One Thing that Changes Everything.
The beautiful thing about this story is that the Zen Master wasn’t holding on too tightly, so trust was easier for him.
I never cease to be amazed at the blessings we received when we most need them.  Thank you Mr. In my view, trust, love, compassion, respect etc are internal, natural occurrence to a person. Thank you for sharing your therapeutic blog that ministers to a person on many, many levels! Still dealing with overcoming the aftertaste of culture shock from having lived in a country where trust does not come natural and where people are quite happy to join up together akin high school, and basically support bullying at a grown up age and a first time experience for me. While thankfully I have left that country, it hasn’t stopped the attacks and yet I try to not become jaded, while questioning how people can go on targeting an individual for a long time and why? Imust say i believe in all you wrote i myself am very open and trusting kind person who loves people and life, i am also very rich in love and very blessed to have a good son and friends and a family, who all think im too trusting and open. I have been hurt and conned mamy times but will not let that change the way i am as always trust and find it hard not to, but why do some think trust = stuiped if loving and giving is bad then i must be bad person, and i try very hard to be good kind caring and always talk to people of all kinds as we are all human beings, i dont know about the love a couple have  never really had but trust must come first and into all our relationships if we are to be who we are. As long as we recognize we’re getting our second chance and trust that we can make a difference. As you get older, it is all too easy to get in a rut - with fixed viewpoints, stuck emotions, ways of being that others can see clearly but you just think are 'right'.
You need to stop worrying and start living, not just to be happy but for health reasons too. Beware of 'mustabation', the belief that you must have a new relationship, a better job and a bigger house before you can be happy.
Write down every negative thought you have over the course of a week, whether it's "My family don't appreciate me" or "I look dreadful." Negativity is a habit and we often don't realize we're doing ourselves down. There's a world of difference between expecting failure or rejection - so as not to be disappointed when it occurs - and recognizing it as a possibility. Instead of feeling overwhelmed by a task, break it down into small segments that you know you can do and start on the first one. If you have a problem, the thing to do is to communicate: find out the information you need to get the full picture, so that the solution becomes apparent.
Making something come to life that you have envisioned - whether a painting, a wonderful meal, a dress, an invention, a business plan - is infinitely satisfying. Joy is often about living in the moment, being absorbed in what you're doing, not brooding on the past or guessing your future. Make a list of things you used to enjoy in your last year at school - aim for 10 or 15 activities.
Write down five things that are really important to you: they might include a nice house, loving supportive partner, the chance to travel, a good job, etc. Your action plan should be broken down into manageable chunks - the steps you know you can make that, one by one, will take you to where you want to go. Unpredicted obstacles may occur so it is important to stay flexible and to think laterally.
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A natural trait of humans is to be constantly developing, growing and moving toward a balanced and mature way of being.
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I have presided over too many weddings where young couples stand before me with stars in their eyes and no idea of how much they will likely hurt each other at some point.


Saying to another person ‘I trust you” is often more profound than saying “I love you.” You may not always trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. If in your situation the broken trust is too deep, then work at a healthy ending to the relationship. One evening, while he was away, a thief sneaked into the hut only to find there was nothing in it to steal. Also, I believe that every person is simple good at heart.A judicious approach in external expression of these can help avoid surprises.
After having my love leave unexpectantly this past July right after the dropping of my walls and the fully letting him into my heart. I call them corpses.” I have had my trust broken numerous times over the years and had built a giant wall around my heart and myself. What happened next was a bit of a blur, but I remember the two hour train ride to the hospital vividly. Under each negative thought you've written, see if you can spot an alternative way of looking at it, that isn't so negative.
It's sensible to look at a situation from all angles and to have a back-up plan to fall back on if need be. Be sure to put aside a little time every day for yourself - relax with a book, in the bath or sitting in the garden with the sun on your face. If you have lots of incomplete jobs, list them in order of priority and tackle the most important job first.
You have the advantages of using your conscious mind to overcome any and all psychological insecurities. Taking steps to push out the boundaries of your experience will ensure that you continue to enjoy life.
Be specific - before you can plan how to achieve a goal it needs to be stated in a way that is realistic, measurable and time-targeted. We get sad when we fail in our exams, when we're rejected by the person we love, or when someone very close to us passes away.
Sugar and caffeine may give you a brief moment of energy; but they are stimulants and later bring about anxiety, tension, and health problems. Endorphins are sometimes called "the happy chemicals" because of their stress-reducing and happiness-inducing properties. Doesn't it feel so good when someone pats you on the back and gives you words of encouragement during your most challenging times? There will probably still be issues causing anger, sadness, anxiety, guilt or frustration that remain.
We may not even like ourselves much, far short of recognizing the power and loving nature of our inner, spiritual selves.
Our present personality is determined by both who and what we have been and by the person we strive to become. Although it is in our nature to learn and grow, we are held back by our culture, which is predominantly focused on survival needs, each of us in competition with others, and our spiritual inner nature is repressed. These will empower you through the gaining of further self-knowledge - and encourage the implementation of your insights in practical ways that can transform your life. Awaken through a process of self-discovery, leading to one's own, self-directed spirituality.
It's based on a technique used by top athletes and other successful people to help them make a big stride forward. Some of these same couples have knocked on my door within weeks or months with awful stories of broken trust. Suspicions often emerge in relationships when people act in a way that is outside their character or routine. Your relationship has its own intimacy boundaries, and this has as much to do with sharing private information and personal feelings as sexual intimacy. I think these are natural phenomenon if impediments are removed, and what you have written helps to remove these impediments. Trust and love are certainly natural phenomena, but sometimes they require a little active intention as well. So in terms of being open an trusting and trying to have open dialogues, I feel hesitant both in discussing this experience as my experience in that country as a foreigner was that noone would help. If it’s fear, why can’t people face their own fears as opposed to projecting it onto someone else?
What I found looking back is new people entering our lives get a regurgitation of other peoples misgivings.
But if you start to shut out new experiences, or if you take less interest in new things, so your capacity for enjoying life diminishes.
Physical exercise is known to stimulate endorphins that lift depression and anxiety - so walk, swim, run or whatever you like doing best. Find the joy in your life and you'll be more attractive and nicer to be around, people will be nicer to you too - and you'll smile some more! See if you've exaggerated the situation or overly generalized, or if you are being unnecessarily intolerant, or thinking in 'should' and 'ought-to' terms. People who do this will often see failure as another step on the road to eventual success; but by expecting and envisioning success, there's less likely to be a failure. This way you have a sense of achievement at each step - and you'll soon find yourself getting a whole lot more accomplished.
Family commitments, financial problems and fear of the unknown can all hold you back - but going for your goals can give your life the boost it needs. Depression, however, has consequences that could ruin your self-esteem, health, and well-being. Spending time and engaging in worthwhile activities with them could give you a very satisfying feeling.
The love and care expressed by others can tremendously boost your immune system and fend off illnesses. The mind is complex and heavily conditioned into patterns of behavior and fixed thinking that require a course of practical training to resolve. If we are fortunate we find our niche and as much as possible solve the problems of survival, then we stick with those solutions.
We may have lost touch with the intuitive and creative faculties that we knew as children and now try to work things out analytically, hampered by the false information indoctrinated into us.
The goal of personal development is to learn and apply that which enables us to attain emotional wellbeing, understanding and effectiveness, and mindful awareness, and to share this knowledge with others. We need to become mindfully conscious instead of ruled by the dictates of instincts, past habits and fixed beliefs.


Give your trust mindfully; aware that there are no guarantees and there is always the chance you will be hurt again.
But don’t give up working on trust no matter how jaded you feel, or else you might as well be a corpse. I sometimes feel like sending couples out with the instructions, “Do not try this at home without a safety net. Believe that there is something stronger than the risk- that is the joy of dropping your guard with another person, letting that person into your private wthoughts and dreams and making a commitment to love each other through thick and thin.
Even if you don’t know why you are behaving the way you are, or if you don’t know why you are pushing love away, just express that you are going through something and need some space. Express yourself as lovingly as you can, and trust your partner to stay with your honest thoughts and feelings. If you are telling a friend something that you haven’t or wouldn’t tell your partner, you may have crossed a line into emotional infidelity. You need to deposit into the other person’s trust account in a way that speaks to that person. The more time that passes, the more tangled the web, the harder it is to come back from broken trust. Your ability to trust yourself and get back on a path with integrity is the biggest issue at stake. It is amazing how people open up when they learn to trust themselves and others, as well as how their life changes. The idea of complete and selfless trust is very complex but you’ve explained it beautifully!
Second point is that any information given, speaking out, would then just be twisted…to have experienced such a situation and environment where noone would just speak out against the wrong, can create a huge loss of faith in humanity. You stay in your comfort zone, and as you get older, your comfort zone gets smaller and smaller. In 1973, Dr Ronald Grossarth-Maticek undertook an experiment on more than 3000 elderly Germans. Joy is infectious but so is misery; therefore don't have anything whatever to do with people who dampen your spirits, invalidate your achievements or tell you what to think.
People with a few close friends are more likely to be happy than those with many mere acquaintances. And at night time, go to bed early enough that you get enough sleep to feel your best the next day.
You will feel happier when you're participating in an activity, whether it's just playing with a child or helping organize a worthwhile event.
If you are suffering from insecurity issues, you should be doing LOTS of personal development every day, and also meditation every day, and that will eventually solve all your issues. Each day turn the water from hot to cold while you're under the shower, and gradually lengthen the time you stay there each day until it's a minute or more. If you are always cooped up in your room (with the curtains closed), it would be difficult not to feel a bit down. If you're a little short on cash, you could engage in simple activities like taking a leisurely stroll in the park, playing sports, reading books, or engaging in anything that you have a passion for and love to pursue.
Many people drink alcohol to "forget their problems," but the problems remain and only seem more oppressive, not less. But our upbringing hasn't taught us most of what we need to know in order to make the most of our potential, to have truly fulfilling careers and relationships. Going forward, the quality of our lives on this planet - even our survival - now depends on each of us taking responsibility for our personal growth. You can either let the betrayal define you and become closed and bitter, or you can rise above the hurt and become even more determined to do whatever you can to create a world of unconditional love. In your calmest moments, you know that the risk to keep your heart closed is nothing in comparison to the joy of sharing love. Gather as much information as you can before you trust, but keep in mind that trust implies incomplete information. Work towards loving and leaving the relationship, giving thanks for what it has meant, forgiving life for disappointing your expectations and moving forward positively. Please take my clothes as a gift.” The thief was bewildered, but he took the clothes and ran away. I am glad to have found another blogger that is writing about building trust, as I feel it is something that people need more encouragement at doing. This is harmful because you not only stop doing things that scare you, but you also stop doing things that give you pleasure. Those who dwell on the worst case scenario, on the other hand, and give themselves worry and stress, tend to be devastated when it actually happens, even though they've been predicting it. After a week, turn on the cold water for just 10 seconds - it should seem easy: Your comfort zone has expanded. This is the reason why many people suffer from depression much more often in winter than in the other seasons.
Find a goal, a meaningful purpose in life - something that really gets you going, and sets your heart on fire. Instead of fear about our survival and competitive angst, we will then be motivated by compassionate understanding and creative love.
The woman wrote a sonnet to her husband that amongst all the things she loved about him it was when he was working on the broken washing machine that she gained a “trust for tomorrow, and the day after that, and the day after that.” Be clear about how trust accrues, and ask direct questions to know how trust builds for others. In 1994 he followed up and found that those with the highest scores were 30 times more likely to be alive and well than those with low scores. No matter how difficult or discouraging life can be, remain firm and have an unshakable belief that you are capable of doing anything you set your heart on. To find such friends you simply have to be friendly yourself, then friendships naturally follow. If you can't afford to get some sunshine, you can always lighten up your room with brighter lights. With this kind of positive attitude, you will attain a cheerful disposition to beat the blues.
But would you be prepared to trust someone with a smile, or a kind word, even knowing that they might abuse your vulnerability? This is the dance of authenticity, the risk that being completely yourself will open you to the most satisfying of all relationships.



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